Friday, August 31, 2012

{school days, school days...}

i am just going to come right out and say it.
i. am. inadequate. 
i even just spelled inadequate wrong.  {twice}.
today was delaney's first {official} day of kindergarten.
last year, we sort of did kindergarten, only because it seemed like every friend that she loved dearly was either {going} to school somewhere (pre-k or Kinder)
starting school at home. and she so so so very much wanted to do school as well.

now, for the things that i'm going to say regarding, when i started school for her, my reasons why, and how we are schooling are all my families {personal choices} and are not a reflections oh how i think you should do it. 
did you know that, how, when, where, etc. your kid goes to school can be quite the controversial issue?
anyway, i just wanted to put that disclaimer out there.
the reason i said we {sort of} did kindergarten last year is because i am not big on starting my kids schooling at 2 or 3 or even 4years old.
my take is this: your child only has the tiniest span of time
 that they can wholly, truly just play and be a kid.  and then, school starts.
once they start school, that is pretty much their life until they graduate college (if they choose to go) .
and i really just wanted to give them the opportunity to be kids.
and, if i am being really honest, i wasn't ready to be that self sacrificing yet.
since delaney is an older kindergartner (due to an october bday, she is at that weird cutoff age)
i really wasn't prepared to start kindergarten for her until this year.
but like i said, she so very badly wanted to take part in school like her friends.
so i got a kindergarten curriculum and we did it 3 days/week all year and through most of this summer.
we had good days and bad days.  but we learned to enjoy the schedule to a degree.
yet, it was still totally my choice if we did school that day, or if we took a week off here and there.

all of that ended {today}.
and i am terrified.
for a multitude of reasons.
i don't feel smart enough.
i am afraid that i am not selfless enough.
i don't feel organized enough.
i fear we will come to the end of they year only to find that i totally dropped the ball.

i don't feel smart enough because i am not creative in the {teaching} sense.  
the curriculum that we used last year was literally scripted for me, and i  {loved}  it.
the curriculum that we are going with this year is the furthest thing from scripted and i have no idea what i am doing.
i decided to get amelia a pre-school book (mostly because i needed something for her to do while i did school with delaney) and you guys, i wish i were kidding about this, but i am not: i am utterly confused by the pre-school teachers guide and the child's workbook. 
 i have no clue how to make sense of the two.
wow.  that took a lot of humility for me to just admit.
and, look how i said earlier that i wasn't a fan of pre-school necessarily and here i am with a pre-school book for amelia!  double standard, i know. things and ideas change when you have a kindergartner and a pre-school aged child who wants to do everything their big sister does.  
and, honestly, if i just left remi and millie to play together while i did school with delaney, neither of them would survive the first week.  they would kill each other.

i am afraid that i am not selfless enough because i have seen hoards and hoards of pictures of friends and family on facebook sending their precious little people off to school.
and i am jealous.
and i think to myself, ahhh, now {that} would be nice.
i think it is totally up to an individual family if they choose to homeschool or send their kids to school.
no judging.  for real.
however, for various reasons {feel free to email me if you want to know the knitty gritty}
we have decided that the wisest, safest choice for {our} family is to homeschool.
and it takes a lot to accomplish this with a 5yr old, a 4yr old and a 2yr old all running around the house.
i truly admire the great women who do it with many more children then i have.
seriously, how do you do it?
when i think of what this will look like, doing school 5days a week for 3 or so hours a day, i feel scared.
i feel selfish, because i think about how much easier it would be and how much more peaceful for me to be able to just send them off and have someone else do the work.
(remember, if you are a mom who sends their kids to school, i am not saying this is what {you} are thinking.  i am being honest about how i would feel about it if i did it.)

i don't feel organized enough because i have never had a knack for organization or administration.
it takes a lot of work to be organized enough to figure out, schedule and put together school work and teach my kids, keep up my house, get individual time with each child outside of school, try and maintain friendships, serve others, cook dinners, etc.
it feels outside of my ability to pull this all off.

but there is one saving grace in all of this, and there is a truth that i am white knuckle gripping onto.
God's grace is sufficient for me.
i will not be able to accomplish this on my own.
it will be by God's grace that any of this is pulled off in any sort of successful fashion.
i. am. inadequate.
WOW!  i spelled it right that time!
and honestly, as afraid, and as unprepared as i feel, this is sort of where i want to rest.
in the fact that i cannot do it on my own.
if it thought that, i would be so puffed up with pride that no one would want to spend a minute of time with me. 
it is good to be in a place of humility, in understanding that God has foresight that i do not have.
he placed me in this role of teacher for my kids, and he will ensure that i do not fail if i trust in his grace to get me through.
i. am. inadequate.
but god is not.
praise his blessed name for that.

and, for your viewing pleasure, a few pictures of my {kindergartner} and my {pre-schooler}

Monday, August 13, 2012

{share the LOVE}

Hi blog readers.
I have something dear to my heart to share with you.
Really, this is {someone} dear to my heart.
I have had the privileged of  being friends with/knowing Liz for about 10years now.

She is the kind of girl you {want} to know, {be} around, have {in} your life.

Liz has this incredible and inspiring heart for {motherhood}, but this road has been scattered with challenges and obstacles that could have demolished her faith and cause her to doubt God's goodness.
But instead of growing a heart of bitterness and distrust, Liz (and her hubby, Joe) have chosen to
trust and believe God for their family.

When Liz was pregnant with their first child, a little girl, she had some complications and had to have an emergency c-section at just 29weeks.
Their precious daughter was born, and was the size of a coke bottle.
While Micah was in the NICU for an unbearably long time, Liz blogged so vulnerably and so honestly that I was moved to tears on virtually every single post.
Now, as a friend said it, Micah is a bundle of adorable blond curls.  This describes her so perfectly!

Last year, Liz and Joe found out {with joy} that they were pregnant with their second child.
In the most heart wrenching and devastating way, due to complications from her last c-section they lost their little boy when her c-section scar ruptured. By God's mercy, Liz survived.
I remember when I found out they had lost their precious Liam, just thinking about how their world had stopped.
Everyone else's kept going.  But their's was at a standstill.
And I was so so heartbroken for them.
It brings me to tears as I think about it now.
But their faith, Liz's honesty in her struggle after loosing Liam, her son, her only son was so inspiring to me.

But God is good, and faithful and He has laid it on their hearts to {adopt}.
They are trusting Him for this, and for a little boy or a little girl to join their family.
But adoption, it is {so} expensive.
The Messer Family has saved and saved.  Joe has taken extra shifts and certainly they have been able to save some money to put towards this.
But they have about $10,000 left to raise to be able to bring {baby} home.
To do this, they are having {Share the Love} week over on Liz's blog.
People have donated tons of {scrumptious} handmade items that Liz has assembled into various packages.
As well as a few {uh-mazing} individual items.
And guess what?
You can win them!
With only $5/entry, you can win one of these incredible packages.
Trust me, you will be {competing} with me to win, but even if you don't, your money will not be wasted!
Here is a link to the Messer Family's blog with {all} the details.
Even if you don't know them, if you would be so generous to donate towards their adoption, it would be simply amazing.
Let's help bring {baby Messer} home!